Confelicity, freudenfreude and how to be popular

Summary

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Confelicity is the joy we feel from someone else’s happiness, while freudenfreude is a fun term for the same concept. To be more popular, focus on genuinely liking others and celebrating their successes. Building connections through recognition and kindness can strengthen your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

1. Practice confelicity by feeling happy for others' achievements.
2. Be the “first liker” and initiate connections with people.
3. Celebrate and acknowledge the efforts of those around you.

Highlights from Article

Confelicity is the feeling of joy or pleasure in someone else’s happiness. It’s a term that captures the idea of sharing in another person’s positive emotions, often described as the opposite of envy.

Freudenfreude is the German term for the joy we feel when someone else experiences happiness or success. It’s often described as the opposite of Schadenfreude, which is the pleasure derived from someone else’s misfortune. Freudenfreude emphasizes celebrating others' achievements and sharing in their happiness, which fosters stronger relationships and positive emotions.

The most popular kids in school, had the longest lists of classmates they liked (per Vanessa, a statistically significant finding across many different schools!). When the researchers observed these students’ day to day, they initiated “micro moments” of connection with all of the people they liked (“Hey Amy,” “What’s up Billy.” etc.). What Vanessa concludes from this study, is that being likeable is in our control, we just need to be “first liker.”

• You are more likable when you like a lot of people. That makes me engage with them more and then they like you more. 

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